How to Get a Toddler to Stop Biting and Hitting?

how to get toddler to stop biting

Biting may sound brutal, but it is very normal for toddlers.

According to a psychiatrist, the young toddlers aging from 1 to 2 years are led by their mouths.

As this is the very first developed in toddlers feel things through their mouths. This way, they not only find the world around them, but they find it comforting as well. Thus at this age, you need to know how to get a toddler to stop biting and hitting.

How to Get a Toddler to Stop Biting?

It is not that toddlers love being cruel, and they bite for the same reason.

Rather, they enjoy exploring new things, making new friends, and playing with them. Certain factors are contributing to this habit, and if you understand them and try to remove them, you can stop your babies from biting.

  • Why and When Your Baby Bites?

You need to assess the situations; being at the Montessori, someone trying to snatch away his favorite toy or someone trying to scare him. Or check whether he bites you or anyone else in the home when you are feeding his younger sibling.

This observation will help you to predict the situation and let you intervene when he is biting.

  • Keep a Close Check

You need to keep a close check on your baby. Usually, there are some actions like yelling, crying, or stamping feet are followed by biting. If your toddler bites observe what signs come before it, try to avoid that disturbing situation.

  • Stop Your Toddler Before He Bites

You can get closer to him and gently but firmly tell him that you do not like his act. Kids learn it better if you tell things from their perspective.

Tell your kiddo he would not feel good if someone bites him, so he should not hurt others as well. Kids don’t learn quickly; you need to keep repeating such reminders. If you find him ready for action, you can hold his forehead a little away from you.

  • Never Bite Him Back

Sometimes, parents may find it appropriate that the kid should be given the same painful feeling of a bite, to help their kids refraining from it. But this is an inappropriate way to teach their child how to counter aggressive behavior.

Even for fun sake never bite your baby. Somehow, you will be encouraging his negative behavior.

  • Tell Him What to Bite

It is not a fair idea to preach your baby that biting is bad or harmful. You can share such ideas with him while playing with him. Show a picture of food to him, asking which food he likes biting. You can make him share his ideas if he wants to bite his siblings or cousins, politely you can tell that it is not good, it hurts.


  • Soothe Him When He Needs to be

Usually, kids bite when they feel disturbed; they should come to you to share their feelings instead of adopting aggressive behavior. Try your best to soothe him and try changing the situation, if possible for you. If he feels disturbed in Montessori, educate him to seek help from some elder.

  • Talk to His Teacher

Before entrusting your child to any teacher or Montessori, make sure that there a safe and tension free environment for your young kid.

The teacher should be able to apply some techniques to handle biting or other aggressive behaviors in a tactful manner.

Common Causes of Toddlers’ Biting

It is not that kids do this biting by choice; there are certain factors contributing to this not so normal behavior.

  • Teething

During the teething stage, toddlers feel it comforting to exert pressure on their gums.

This leads them to bite anything available to them. If teething is the cause of this biting habit, then you should provide rings and certain objects to your toddlers to bite.

This will reduce their chances of biting people around.

In summer if you get these rings cold by putting in freezer or fridge; toddlers enjoy biting them more.

Check out How to Soothe Teething Baby?

  • Excessive Stimulation and Exhilaration:

When toddlers are exhilarated and excited, the most probable way to express their joy is through biting. You may feel that they are much stimulated and getting out of your control.

During or after having some activity like jumping or dancing- if a child is not calmed down by some elder-it is possible for your kiddo to bite someone.

  • Being Spontaneous and Unruly

Toddlers are at this stage are too young to learn what is right and what is not. They are likely to bite anything available to them. They are making efforts to explore the world according to their capability at the moment.

  • Influencing things or People

Toddlers like to influence others; they enjoy when they find someone reacting to their bites. If you pretend to have more pain than they exerted, they enjoy it as a sense of achievement in making an impact.

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  • Being Irritated

Toddlers feel irritated and frustrated with various challenges, demands, various desires, lesser opportunities, and many restrictions, and what not!  The easiest and spontaneous response to all this can be a bite. This can be a message they convey through their one learned ability.

Thus you need to know what you should not do with the baby.

How to Get a Toddler to Stop Biting and Hitting?

Being parents, you can assess the situations that disturb your kid to choose such aggressive behavior. Try to provide a safe environment for your baby to avoid the situation.

You can communicate effectively to his teacher if he bites in the school. The best point is, it is just a phase that will pass soon.

What if a Kid Bites Your Child?

You first possible reaction is to get upset. Don’t feel bad about the brought up, parents or environment or school. It is a phase of childhood; this habit and the bite mark will go away soon as well.


If you feel that your toddler is displaying a sign of biting again, be on your toes.

You can even get clues from his Montessori teacher about the things that irritate your baby enough to start biting.

Gradually you can show him pictures of your shoes, lipsticks, cars, an arrow or other inappropriate things ‘NOT’ to bite, in a playful manner.

By knowing how to get a toddler to stop biting, you can bring a big change in his behavior.

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